As a longtime watersports (w/s) enthusiast in Sacramento., I have noticed that there seems to be a gender divide both in theSacramento area and on the internet -- at least among straight people.

Though many men are at least curious about water sports, nearly all women tend to recoil from the idea that peeing can ever be a part of sex. Of course this observation is based on my own experience, but there may also be some pretty good reasons why these very different reactions correspond rather neatly to the contrasts between the ways in which the genders are socialized.

Put simply: women are often traumatized from an early age to be`nice girls', but men are not. This reprehensible pox on the houses of both genders has had the unfortunate result of ruining many people's sex lives. (Not to mention the other harms that follow indirectly.)

This page is primarily directed towards women and is written from the perspective of a straight man, nevertheless I think others may derive some benefit from it.

"It's just not for me..."

Well, okay. Maybe it's not. But I urge you to think a bit more about your own experiences before you reject the idea out of hand. Have you ever let a little pee `go' in the shower? I bet you have. (You were all wet--don't tell me you got out, dripped water all over the floor and then shivered on the toilet?

Ever enjoyed having sex with a lover when you had to go but were so hot that you didn't want to disturb the mood? Did you wonder if that feeling of fullness was adding to the enjoyment?

Do you masturbate? (Sure you do. Everyone does! :) Well, have you ever squirted a little while you were touching yourself? It probably felt good, didn't it? No, you don't have to tell me whether you thought so--but if you are wondering whether that's `normal', please read on!

Health issues

Pee is not dangerous: the urine of a healthy human is sterile when it leaves the body. It is one thing to say that you find it unappealing, but there is a logical disconnect between objecting to the health risks from w/s and enjoying the feeling of having one's anus tongued by a lover in the shower.

Of course there is a possibility that piss contains small amounts of cum, and therefore in rare cases it may transfer the HIV virus, just as any form of contact with cum may do so. Nevertheless the AIDS experts seem to agree that masturbating a partner is relatively `safe' despite the extremely remote possibility that a small cut on one person's hand may provide an entry point for the virus contained within the other's cum.

Trace amounts of the virus have also been found in saliva and perspiration. This is why the American CDC (Centers for Disease Control) recommends that heavy kissing with strangers should be avoided. But that is certainly not a reason to refrain from sharing the softness of your warm wet tongue with a longtime SO during a passionate kiss!

You've heard the saying: "The only truly safe sex is the sex you have with only yourself." This is correct and is probably an adequate reason for avoiding any form of intimate contact with anyone else if one wishes to be _completely_ safe. But most forms of pissing pleasures rank with soul-kissing or manual masturbation as some of the least risky activities. And many of the techniques described below do not require a partner!

Okay, so contact isn't terribly risky. What about ingestion? Again, the main problem from an STD standpoint is that it may contain cum, so oral contact should be avoided when having sex
with strangers. But -- you say -- piss is a waste product and should therefore be `unhealthy.' In fact, the only known side-effect from drinking *large* quantities of a healthy person's pee is a mild tummy ache due to the high nitrogen content. (However, some caution may be warranted if the person is taking substantial dosages of certain medications. Another thing to keep in mind is that the urine of someone who has consumed a lot of alcohol will contain small amounts of it.)

To put all this in perspective: unprotected fellatio and anal or vaginal sex are considered risky. Cunnilingus and deep/heavy kissing are relatively low-risk. Masturbation is very low risk.
Pissing pleasures rank in the same category as masturbation, unless there is oral, anal, or vaginal contact, in which case they are probably less risky than the corresponding forms of contact with cum.

"Yuck, it stinks!!"

Actually the strong smell we associate with urine in public places origins from a chemical reaction that occurs as a result of exposure to the air. If people produced cum or sweat in larger quantities, you might have a similar reaction to those substances, as these fluids also contain the compound creatinine. Most folks deal with the smell either by dilution (drinking lots of liquids prior to w/s activities) and/or by confining pissing pleasures to the bathtub or shower.

No, it's not Just-Another-Kind-of-D&S

D&S, B&D and S&M are so widespread now that they are sometimes considered a synonym for `kinky sex'. The popular understanding seems to be that many forms of sexuality are really best understood in the context of erotic power exchange. But I think many of us believe that this may be a misleading fallacy.

Think of it like this: suppose you first heard of oral sex as a form of domination. You might then assume that it was part of D&S/B&D. Well, that would be pretty silly, right? Most people think of oral sex as a (potentially) very affectionate, wonderfully hot, and incredibly sensual act, one that can be done between two people who are equals inside and outside of the bedroom. So oral sex is *not* just another kind of D&S--it has a distinct identity in its own right.

Similarly, mistaking w/s for just another form of domination or
submission obscures the fundamental fact that w/s can be a warm,
wet, intimate, sensual and loving thing to do, just like
enjoying a climax with your partner.

The other side of this argument is equally valid. If you are
one of those people who can only enjoy sex as a form of power,
then you may delight in w/s as a form of domination or
submission just as you revel in vaginal, oral or anal sex in the
d&s/b&d context.


"I've never heard of anything so ridiculous in all my life!!"

All right. You probably haven't. Most people haven't either!
Watersports is one of those `secrets of sex' that practitioners
keep very well hidden. Your friends, neighbors, co-workers and
past-and-present lovers may know more about it than you think.

But let's be realistic. You may have a career, a reputation,
and perhaps an inheritance to keep intact. And what about the
kids? I wouldn't blame you for a nanosecond if you wished to
ensure that everyone around you is convinced that your nature is
one of Good Moral Character. But that doesn't mean you can't
enjoy your body in private, does it?

And remember that the same prohibitions apply to others within
your social milieu. The fact that no one has ever mentioned
pissing pleasures to you as a source of great sensual joy does
not mean that no such animal exists. Watersports cannot be
compared to the `lost continent' of Atlantis, the existence of
Unicorns, or the presence of Space Aliens. It is a very real,
totally sensual and completely exhilarating pleasure that your
own body can afford you, without the need for a partner or the
risk of public exposure.

The next time you meet a coworker, a friend, or even a sibling,
look into their eyes and ask yourself whether you can be
absolutely certain that they do not enjoy some form of
pissing pleasure.

We watersports enthusiasts may constitute the largest `secret
society' on the planet. And you can join in the fun without
paying any dues, going through any initiation procedure, or
having your name end up on any junk-mailing lists.


Many men *adore* it

My own philosophy is simple--if I want to have sex with a woman,
that means I *delight* in her essence. I want to put my warm
tongue between her sweet wet lips and have hers between mine. I
want to taste her sweat and delight her with my mouth. I want
to kiss her when she cums and please her everywhere with my
cock, my hands, and my tongue. And I want her to feel
comfortable and relaxed with me, so she can enjoy the sensual
intimacy of a total _release_ during sex--cuming and/or peeing
as she chooses.

Are there a lot of (straight) men like me? I think there are
millions of us. Many may not realize that they have these
desires, but most who do are continually faced with the
challenge of gently `educating' our partners.

Now I don't mean to pretend that even a majority of men like
watersports. My impression is that men who like historically
`forbidden' forms of sex, such as sweaty sex, anal sex/ass play,
and cunnilingus are much more inclined to be oriented towards
it. I also think that most such men are afraid to mention it to
their partners. This is simply an unhappy consequence of the
dreadfully judgmental attitudes our society has internalized
within us.


Time and experience heal all prejudices
If one we go back just a few decades in the history of American
sexuality we find a similar prohibitions against oral sex:
cunnilingus in particular. For centuries people in the West as a
whole have been trained to regard _all_ bodily fluids as
`dirty'--especially those that origin from women.

But many people now enjoy sweaty sex, fellatio, cunnilingus and
even analingus in the U.S. and elsewhere. And the worldwide
popularity of once-forbidden pissing pleasures is also
increasing now, partly due to the availability of northern
European and South American erotica available on the 'net.


Try it: you might like it

I would like to make a few suggestions for women who have
wondered they were `normal' just because they experienced (and
enjoyed) the occasional accidental squirt while masturbating or
the pleasure derived from a full bladder during vaginal sex or
Kliegl exercises during their pregnancy.

1) Read a little more about watersports: both erotica and
general information. (Be aware that there are many
different subinterests in sexual water sports.
There are the `wet clothes' enthusiasts. And there are the
men who like the idea of a woman who is unable to control her
bladder. So don't be discouraged if some of the stuff
doesn't appeal to you. I belong to the "peeing is
sex-as-usual-just-like-cuming" school of thought, but I'm
afraid that we're in the minority in terms of the available
erotica writers.)


2) Look at erotic pictures of people who are really enjoying
themselves. You will find them on
alt.binaries.pictures.erotica.urine and often in
alt.binaries.pictures.erotica.fetish. Sometimes pictures
are (inappropriately) posted to alt.sex.watersports and
alt.sex.fetish.watersports.

(Warning: some but not all of these pictures will be highly
stylized representations of d&s `rituals.' Others will
involve couples who clearly regard watersports as
`part-and-parcel' of a healthy, sensual, loving relationship.
As with all photographic erotica, be prepared to separate the
wheat from the chaff.)


3) Try a few experiments on your own. You don't have to
risk the potential embarrassment of telling anyone else.

a. If you enjoy either alcohol or stimulants such as Coke
(Pepsi) or tea or coffee, try drinking a little extra the
next time and holding it in. Then have sex with your
partner and enjoy the sensation of fullness. Plain water
or fruit juice will do just fine, too, but you have to
drink more of it. But don't overdo coffee, tea,
caffinated soft drinks, grapefruit juice or anything with
a lot of salt in it--your system will feel dried out
afterwards. My favorite choice is a combination: lots of
water at first, followed by a small amount of coffee.
Beer also works well, though obviously one must be
prepared to become intoxicated.

b. Alternatively, if you want to masturbate instead of having
sex with someone else, try sitting on the toilet in your
panties or pantyhose and letting a little pee out while
you touch yourself. You might have to concentrate to do
this and lose the `flow' of your masturbation session, but
that's okay. Once you feel a bit of the warmth and the
wetness, then go back to stroking yourself. When you
think you're getting very turned on, stop, and pee a
little more. Then go back to masturbating and wait until
you've built up another head of steam. Then let a bit
more piss out. Keep alternating until you just can't
stand it any more and then consciously try to pee and
climax at the same instant. Everyone I've ever known who
has tried this exercise has found it to be an unexpectedly
exquisite delight! :) (Men who wish to train themselves
to piss with a hard-on can also use this technique.)

c. You can play the same game in the bathtub, if you want.
Wait for the end of your bath (or shower) and try
masturbating. Pee whenever you feel like it. Just let it
go.

d. Or, don't worry about achieving a climax. Just stimulate
yourself either vaginally or anally the next time you
really have to pee. Try it while you're on the toilet.
Feels good, doesn't it? (It might feel even better if
someone else was providing the stimulation.)

e. If you're a bit of an exhibitionist, go out to the
neighborhood convenience store or to some similar place
when you need to go really badly. Wear the right clothes
so you can let a little out without anyone else noticing
(black outer garments work well, and consider wearing two
sets of panties). You'd be surprised how erotic it can be
to let a little warm piss out into your clothes right in a
public place without anyone knowing about it.

f. Was (e) too much for you? Why not just let your SO watch
you pee, in the privacy of your own bathroom? This can
be a very sensuous experience for both of you!

g. There are other very mild activities you can do if you
have someone else to cooperate with, such as `helping'
them pee by holding their lips open (if female) or aiming
them (if male). Or you can have the other person `help'
you. It's *sweet*, sexy, intimate, and violates a minimal
number of taboos.

h. Finally, when and if you're ready, you can try actually
peeing during sex itself. If your lover is cooperative
just try cuddling with him or her and letting go (you'll
have to using plastic sheets or make other preparations
such as using a few towels, of course). Or, if you have a
really willing partner, try it during vaginal/toy sex, or
even oral sex. Try not to worry about your hang-ups, just
_relax_, feel comfortable, remember that the other person
cares for you, and just _release yourself_. (Don't worry
about it if you can't do it the first time you try. It
takes a little practice sometimes, but it is well worth
the effort.)

i. If you or your lover eventually get into the habit of
ingesting small or even larger quantities of the other
person's pee during oral sex, remember that whatever the
pissing person drinks will flavor it slightly. Beer
seems to be the beverage of choice for producing
slightly-sweet pleasant-tasting pee. Nonalcoholic
beer can be substituted. Fruit juice is also popular.
(Again, exercise caution if the peeing partner is taking
large amounts of medication.)

j. The "Watersports Training Manual" contains all of these
suggestions and a number of others. If you think that
you may enjoy pissing pleasures, I strongly recommend
you go to the URL mentioned in (a) and take a look at it.


Some parting words of possible wisdom

Sex is supposed to be fulfilling. You have a complex,
delicate, and intricate body which can provide you with
tremendous satisfaction if you wish to use it.

It's true that watersports _isn't_ for everyone. But it's for
more people than are currently aware of it, and few if any of
the existing adherents were comfortable with the idea when it
was first introduced to them.

Take it slowly and listen to your lover and your body, not the
dogmas of society. And above all...