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Sacramento Bondage ...

Where to begin? There is so much to tell! To do bondage right there is so much you need to know, and the tricky part is that you already have this information locked up inside of you! Somehow, bondage is 100% natural. Don't ask me how that can be, just look at the facts...

• On any evening while watching tv you can expect to see at least one tie-up situation
• How many times have you seen a set of handcuffs hanging from the rear view mirror of a car? How many people who are into bondage are willing to do that? How many people who do bondage use handcuffs? Most prefer rope. Handcuff users are in the minority!
• 90% of Americans have bondage fantasies
• 50% of Americans try bondage
• 25% of americans do bondage on an ongoing basis
• 10% of Americans do bondage all their adult life
• 2% of Americans live a bondage lifestyle



Keep in mind that most people will not tell you that they have even thought of bondage or tried it. That should punch up some additional numbers!

"Why does this excite me?"
I have heard a thousand reasons why. Here are some:

• "The part of the brain that controls our sexual appitite is next to the part that craves excitement and violence."
  This one is nice. It's non-threatening. To believe it all I have to do is accept that my brain is slightly damaged or abnormal.
• "It's a latent image or a memory handed down by some ansestor in our family tree."
  Kinda sounds like, "In my previous life I was a slave owner!" Naw! I believe that memories are passed down to our progeny, but in a very weak way.
• "It's a primal memory."
  I can see where women being the weaker of the genders would be like a captive of a caveman and this would run along the same lines as a marrage. In a loose way it makes some sense. So if this is true, why don't all women feel the same way?
• "It comes on as a self worth issue. Some of us feel like we aren't worth anything, so we want to be a slave so we can be abused or a Master so we can abuse others to gain a false sense of importance or reclamation."
  
• "Some people need power. They claim to be a Master so they can have control. Others want to give up, not be in control, and be a slave."
  Un huh.... sure. Power play is a part of bondage, but it's a give type thing. A guy could take power from me (as in rape), but he'd only get one chance! The beauty of giving is to have someone who wants it. The beauty of getting is having someone willing to give.
• "Some people like to abuse and some like to be abused."
  So what does that have to do with bondage? Bondage is not about abuse, bondage is about sharing.

All I know is that it feels good (real good) and that it's a part of me! I am going to treat this as a positive thing.

Think of bondage as "play". You've heard of foreplay so how about Adult Play? Play as in games. Of course bondage is a lot more fun than Checkers!

You don't have to be a slave or a Master to "play" bondage. It's fine to treat it like a game. You don't have to play a role and pretend to be the princess locked up in the tower (that's fun too though.)

For starting out maybe the best thing is to be yourself. It's ok if you don't know all the rules or even you change some of them to suit you and your partner. You can even play alone (sometimes.)

Bondage is fun !

• Dominance / Submission.
  Briefly giving one person more power or control than another person.
  • Role-Playing: Acting out characters during sex.
  • Tickling: Stimulating the body.
  • Shaving: Shaving body areas.
  • Display: Exhibition, voyeurism, dancing, performing.
  • Wrestling: Struggling with each other.
  • Resistance Play: One partner agrees to resist while the other seduces.
  • Master & slave (or Mistress & slave): One partner serves the other.
  • Spanking: Of the rear end.
  • Whipping: Acted out with specially-made soft whips, which won't hurt or injure.
  • Dominance: Acted out with a collar and leash, ordering, servicing, kneeling, punishment, pleasuring, activities or dialogue.
• BDSM
  Bondage / discipline / submission / masochism.
  This is the old handle people used to put on us before bondage was as well understood as it is now. Notice that it is a catch-all one-size-fits-none kind of a deal.

Notice the word "seem". Look at it. If 90% of the population has bondage fantasies then why would society want to put it down?

Consider this; how often do you hear society talking about oral sex? How often do you hear society talking about any sex act? Society is out in the open. Sex is usually behind closed doors. Bondage is behind locked closed doors!

It's not that bondage is bad, it is that we don't discuss sex in front of the whole nation. There are the kids to be concerned with, the teens who are all too willing to try sex and experiment with it before they are ready to accept the reasponsabilities that go along with it, the bible thumpers that think they are all products of Imaculate Conception, and the elderly who just don't want to hear about it any more that make openess about sex in public a taboo. And that's halfway cool.

The problem is it sometimes make sex seem dirty somehow. And if sex is dirty then bondage MUST be filthy! i shouldn't have to even hit on this and i feel like i've harped on it too long already so let me just reiterate that bondage is not dirty and we can go on...

Pretty good! How good does it feel after being tied up for awhile? Even better! How good does it feel to be tied up and stretch against what ever has you tied up? You have got to feel it to believe it!

And stretching is not even the best part! Have you ever wondered how to get him turned on when you are ready? Try putting on a set of handcuffs in front of him!

Have you ever wanted to stretch what you can do? Let him tie you up and tease you to your limit and then stop! Yeah, the old interuptus routine! When he starts again you get fired right back up. Sometimes it's too hard to decide if it would be better if he stopped again and then go some more. Hey! Guess what! YOU don't have to make that decision any more! Do you think he's going to like making it for you? Absolutely! He can drive you up the wall for hours! When's the last time you make love for hours? Hours and hours? Trembling at his every touch?
.... SO WHAT HAVE WE LEARNED?

• Bondage is clean, natural, and fun.
• It has it's rules, but you can add to it anyway that you want.
• It's Safe Sane and consensual.
• You won't get hurt and it won't mess with your mind.
• That bondage can prolong the plateau before climax almost indefinately.
• Almost everyone thinks about it and half the people you know either have done it or will do it!